Starting counselling for childhood abuse is similar to driving. Like driving different vehicles, it may take time to determine which counselling modality is the best fit for you in sessions. I sit next to you in the passenger seat and ensure you are safe, heard, validated, and supported as you drive. In counselling, we unpack your childhood abuse and how it impacts you. We discuss your coping mechanisms, and I share strategies to help heal your inner child. Some sessions may involve driving in difficult terrain as you share upsetting and painful experiences from your childhood. But you are not alone; we process these experiences as we move forward together. You can pull over, slow down, or change lanes at any time. You gain new insight and understanding, which creates new experiences and awareness. Driving home after your counselling session, you feel validated, supported, reassured, and more resilient. You also reflect on your inner child and meet their needs.
I am a registered clinical counsellor in Burnaby (#19428) dedicated to supporting individuals who have experienced childhood abuse.
I am a Burnaby therapist who supports you in healing from your childhood abuse. This happens in a safe, non-judgmental, and private space, both in person and online. For some survivors of childhood abuse, their self-esteem, view of self, and self-worth are impacted. Others have negative core beliefs which surface when they feel triggered in their present day. I work with you to build your self-esteem and self-worth and to strengthen your relationship with yourself.
At Ease Counselling in Burnaby, I offer individual, in-person, and online counselling for childhood abuse for adults and youth. I work with you to help you achieve your goals and improve your mental health.
As your Burnaby BIPOC counsellor, I ensure you feel seen, heard, validated, and accepted. Starting your healing journey takes courage, and I am here to support you every step of the way.
Child abuse includes physical, emotional, financial, sexual, and psychological forms of abuse experienced by a child (under the age of eighteen) by a parent, caregiver or another adult. Moreover, it includes neglect, in which a child’s basic needs are not met. Finally, exposure to family or domestic violence is also deemed child abuse.
You may be a busy, successful professional who struggles to heal from the childhood abuse you experienced. At work, you may seem to have everything under control, and coworkers may admire your dedication and drive. However, internally, you may have days when you feel triggered and trapped by the childhood abuse you experienced.
You may be a high-achieving student who struggles to cope with the childhood abuse you experienced. At school, your peers and friends admire your ability to study and deliver coursework and presentations on time. However, internally, you may struggle with a lack of sleep and flashbacks of the childhood abuse you experienced.
You may be a stay-at-home parent or caregiver who struggles to process the childhood abuse you experienced. At home, you may have everything under control and consistently meet your partner’s and children’s needs. However, internally, you may struggle with negative core beliefs which stem from the childhood abuse you experienced.
At Ease Counselling in Burnaby provides a safe space to share and heal from your childhood abuse.
Childhood abuse can impact your life in several ways. For example:
Burnaby childhood abuse counselling provides a nonjudgmental, kind, and compassionate space to help you heal from the childhood abuse you experienced. Together, we focus on your needs, which may include the following:
I use a variety of different counselling modalities to support clients with childhood abuse. Every client is different, and as a counsellor, I support each client with where they are in their healing journey. Counselling modalities that can help include:
CBT can help individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns. It can also help individuals challenge thinking traps.
DBT can help individuals with emotional regulation by learning skills to help them cope. It can also help individuals learn strategies to help them cope with distress tolerance.
EMDR can help individuals process traumatic and distressing experiences through bilateral stimulation. Different to traditional talk therapy, EMDR involves processing each distressing experience until it is no longer distressing.
Support for survivors
310 Mental Health Support Line (province-wide) Crisis 24 hours: 310-6789
Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868 or Text the word “CONNECT” to 686868.
National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453
Suicide Crisis Helpline: 9-8-8 24/7 for calls and text
Websites
https://endingviolencecanada.org/sexual-assault-centres-crisis-lines-and-support-services/
Burnaby childhood abuse counselling focuses on the connection between childhood trauma and your present struggles or places where you feel stuck. For example, you may have an anxious attachment that impacts your relationship, and this may stem from your childhood and the emotional abuse you experienced. In counselling, we work together to understand how your anxiety comes to the surface, and we focus on your attachment needs and fears. Some adult survivors of childhood abuse struggle with low self-esteem and negative self-talk as part of them internalised their perpetrator’s voice. As your Burnaby therapist, I work with you to build your self-esteem, strengthen your connection with yourself and develop a kinder self-talk. Finally, some adult survivors feel disconnected from their inner child, and we unpack this in counselling.
Burnaby childhood abuse counselling explores how your childhood abuse impacts your life. We explore how it impacts your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, view of self, and relationships with others. We also identify triggers and how you react or respond when triggered. Individuals who have experienced childhood abuse sometimes blame themselves and have negative self-talk. Childhood abuse survivors also sometimes feel ashamed, and they struggle to share their experiences as they fear being judged or blamed. As your counsellor in Burnaby, I support you in unpacking and processing this shame. I also reassure adult survivors that they are not to blame for the abuse they experienced. Some adult survivors of childhood abuse experience grief and loss around their childhood. We process this loss and work together to rebuild confidence and self-worth.
Burnaby childhood abuse counselling helps you heal from the childhood abuse you experienced. You may struggle with feelings of shame, embarrassment, blame, and confusion. Some adult survivors of childhood abuse had coping mechanisms, but these may no longer be effective. You may find it challenging to keep up with work, socialise with friends or family, and engage in day-to-day activities without feeling triggered. As your Burnaby therapist, we work together to unpack past experiences and heal them so they no longer trigger you. We can not change what happened, but we can change how you feel about it. We also work together to heal your inner child; we identify their unmet needs, wants and fears. Some of our work together involves validating your inner child’s feelings and meeting their unmet needs.
In some cases, survivors of childhood abuse report that the perpetrators were strangers, but in the majority of cases, the perpetrator is someone the survivor knows, for example, a parent, caregiver, family member or trusted adult.
No, they are not. The survivor is never to blame for being physically, verbally, emotionally or sexually abused. It doesn’t matter what the survivor said or did. No one asks to be abused physically, emotionally, verbally or sexually by their parents, family members or adults. The perpetrator is to blame and responsible for their actions. As your counsellor in Burnaby, I help survivors process and unpack feelings of shame, blame, anger, sadness and guilt.
Yes, it is possible to heal from childhood abuse. Every client has a unique healing journey, and while sometimes it takes time to process and recover, it is possible to heal. Counselling in Burnaby supports individuals who want to process and heal from childhood abuse. As a Burnaby therapist, I have supported several clients on their healing journeys.
Perpetrators of childhood abuse justify their behaviour and often blame the child for their actions; however, survivors are not to blame. As a Burnaby BIPOC therapist, I believe that no reason could explain why someone is abusive to a child. Some research shows that perpetrators who were abused as children grew up to be perpetrators. However, not everyone who was abused as a child grows up to be a perpetrator.
There is no “type” and often perpetrators are friendly, trustworthy and known to the child. Their behaviour may not be concerning to others, and others may also view them as friendly and kind; however, they abused you when no one was around. Some adult survivors disclose being abused by their child minder or neighbour. In these instances, the perpetrator was older and known in the community. At Ease Counselling in Burnaby supports survivors in unpacking and processing their abuse.
As a Burnaby BIPOC counsellor, sessions focus on meeting you where you are and working at your pace, alongside you, with compassion, kindness, and curiosity, both in-person and online.
As a Burnaby therapist, I incorporate evidence-based modalities in every session. I am trained in various evidence-based modalities, including Acceptance Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing. Each of these modalities equips me to support your unique needs, and we work together to achieve your counselling goals.
As a Burnaby therapist, I understand the impact of inequality and oppression, providing a safe, non-judgmental, and inclusive space in-person and online. People from all ethnic backgrounds, genders, and sexual orientations, including 2SLGBTQ+, are welcome. As a South Asian Burnaby therapist, I create a culturally sensitive space, and I am curious to learn more about your culture, norms, and values.
